Each and every one of us has a value. The value that determines how we see ourselves and how others see us. Our worth, not in physical terms but in character, value and pedigree matters most. This in a way expresses our self-concept and self esteem.
Self-concept is about the individual’s perception of himself. It consists of self-knowledge, self-esteem and self-ideal. YOU have an image or picture of yourself. This image however depends on what you know about yourself. This means what do you know about yourself physically, psychologically, spiritually, mentally etc.? A good self-knowledge helps you to develop a positive self-esteem, that is, the positive image which you have of yourself; who you think you are or how you carry yourself. This in turn results in how you see yourself or place yourself within the society. Self-ideal is the role or model, which you have in mind to become, that is, your ideal. The achievement of this ideal leads to your self-actualisation. In order to develop a good self-concept and esteem, you need to believe in yourself and not hate yourself. Some individuals do not do this; they do not like their self-hood. They tend to criticize who they find themselves to be. This is wrong, you are expected to study yourself and understand who you are and correct your defects. Your self-concept is enhanced through self-development and the image of yourself, which YOU create; that is the image you want the world to have of you or the ways you make the world look at you.
Self-concept is affected by the following factors
- Determination or consistency
Your upbringing and background determine your self-concept. The way and manner through which YOU look at yourself is dictated by what YOU learned while growing up. A person’s background contributes greatly to the kind of person and personality that becomes developed in later years. This background determines the image, which you create for yourself and therefore your self-concept. Your background dictates how YOU talk, think and act. Your thoughts develop your habits, which in turn mould your character and contribute greatly to your personality and self-image. This will affect your self- concept. Since your background contributes a great deal to your character and habits, it is logical to believe that it will affect your self-concept. Your life journey is your own pathway, your story as told by you and your play as acted by you. You are the main actor and in the lead role of your life play. Do not allow anyone to write your life story for you or direct your life play for you. To take control of your life journey, there are other factors you must take note of as you take the steps towards evolving and becoming YOU.
HOWEVER, HOW DO YOU SEE YOURSELF? WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM YOURSELF? ARE YOU LIMITED OR DO YOU LIMIT YOURSELF? WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS TOWARDS YOURSELF? ARE YOU REALLY DETERMINED OR CONSISTENT ABOUT YOURSELF?