“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.” ― C. JoyBell C.
The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have. ~ Louis E. Boone
do the things you love doing and do them well
There are things, actions or work that no other person can do better than you. There are also things that you derive a lot of satisfaction and happiness from because you are doing them. The individual who wants to develop a positive self-concept must do more of such things. In performing those actions, however, he must be sure that they do not affect others negatively or that they are not negative. When you perform what you love doing most and such actions are positive and contribute to other people’s life and existence, you get a sort of happiness within your life. In doing things you love, ‘you’ become attuned to life. You are also able to distinctly carve out an image for yourself. This is because the more you carry out the things you love most that gives you happiness, the better the niche you carve for yourself. At a point in time, people begin to relate what you do that is good to you. In addition, doing good things and actions that you love doing is also a way of honouring and glorifying the name of your Father in heaven.
The above is not to say that you cannot love doing bad things and love doing them well too. The advice is that if that is what you love, you should keep doing that too. The reason being that whatever you do, you will surely reap it. Everything, which you carry out, will always come back to you. The best thing however, is to do good and be totally involved in doing so. The positive self-concept that one develops cannot be measured because not only those good deeds give you self-confidence but they also make you to grow. In the case of doing bad too, the result comes to you later after a passage of time and in multiples and when your bad deeds come to you, you lose your self- concept. Let us take for example a man who loves cheating other people. He may be successful in the short run but the day he is found out he is a cheat, he loses all respect and become a nobody. If he occupies a high position, he falls from grace to grass and in some instances it becomes difficult for him to rise again.
think, speak and act positively
There are three things that make you to be who you are. They are what you think, what you say and what you do. Your thoughts determine your utterances and your utterances dictate what you do. What you do makes and develops your personality. There are two ways one can also carry out the three factors above. They are either positively or negatively. If one carries them out negatively one becomes negative person and one is known for negative thoughts, utterances and actions. Naturally, one will be drawn to people of his own ilk. Many other people who do not believe in what he is will also naturally move away from him. This will in turn affect his self-image, self-esteem and self-concept. When you think positively you are able to critically examine and cope with any situation in which you find yourself. Thinking positively helps you to always look at the good side of all things as well as explaining off untoward things. You are able to know that anything that happens is temporary and that in the long run it is for your own good and that it will always end no matter how bad it is. Speaking positive words helps you to affirm what is good to yourself. You are also able to help people through their tribulations and afflictions because you will become a source of joy to them. A pillar whose utterances will always lead them right and give them hope. Doing positive things also help in building one’s personality. You become known for doing good thereby becoming an example and a point of reference.
All the above makes it possible for you to become accepted. It also builds confidence in you and makes you feel good. When you feel good, your self worth increases, people come close to you and they confide in you. They also communicate a lot with you because they know that you will always see the positive side of anything that may happened to them. They believe you because you are able to give them hope where others think things and situations are hopeless. You are able to do this because you are not only positively minded but also positive in outlook and deeds. While you may think negatively at times, you have not allowed it to sour you existence.