“You don’t love someone because they’re perfect,” she says. “You love them in spite of the fact that they’re not.”
I don’t know how to respond to that; it’s like being told after thirty-five years that the sky, which I’ve seen as a brilliant blue, is in fact rather green.” ― Jodi Picoult,
be aware of your weaknesses and accept them
No man is created totally perfect. Every man has got one or more weaknesses. So also is you. You are not a perfect being. You have flaws that are part of you. This as you know must be so because the two sides of life make life what it is. If you are without flaws, you will not realize your relation and position with your Creator. It is human to have weaknesses but it is not good for one to ignore them, elevate them to a glorious height, succumb to them or reject them totally. Weaknesses or flaws are necessary in a man’s life. A successful and well developed man is not the person who ignores his flaws but instead he is a man who is able to control and manage his flaws. In order for you to control your flaws, it is important for you to recognise those flaws first. You should know your weaknesses. This can be done by critically examining yourself. After knowledge of one’s weaknesses, one is not expected to ignore or repress them as if they do not exist. One should study the root of the weaknesses and if it is what one can totally do without, one should do without them.
In case it is one which one cannot do without immediately one should learn how to manage it by substitution. This means you substitute the faults with some good aspects. This has to be done in a step-by-step manner. The ability to manage one’s weaknesses gives the individual confidence. Let us take for example that a man’s weakness is anger. If he learns to control and manage it, a lot of people will not know about this aspect of him. So they tend to think he does not get angry and that no matter the provocation he is always in control. This is not so because it is not that he does not get angry but his ability to control and manage his anger makes it look as if he does not get angry.